Dear Readers,
Well, this whole thing morphed into something else.
I admit I'm a dinosaur. The state of being Transgender isn't what it used to be back when I started out.
Like there's two genders. Male and Female. Biologically there's also hermaphrodites born with both private parts. If you got a sex change operation you're going from one to the other. If you go through with it then your pronouns become that of whichever of the two genders you became.
Also the whole point was to embrace the gender roles of the opposite sex!
It was understood that transitioning is NOT for everyone, and that's ok. Sometimes it would take adults years to figure out if it's truly what they wanted. The community used to be supportive either way. People would take the COGIATI test multiple times over their life as a barometer.
Forced feminization was an online kinky fetish. A fictional genre that should NOT be emulated in real life.
Only a well educated adult can make the decision to transition for themselves after a lot of research, introspection, and figuring out what they really want out of life. It is NOT reversible for Men. If you want to have biological children to pass on your genetics then you have to do that first before transitioning. That's not a decision a teen or younger can make.
It is ok to never transition. It is ok to detransition. It's your life, and only you can live it how you want.
Flaunting that you're TG in public is foreign to me. People used to keep it to themselves. Point was if you did transition nobody could tell you had. Some did share their personal journeys online but for the most part it was a very private thing.
The new made up pronouns? Those are pure bullshit. Nothing about being transgender is gender neutral. Gender neutrality is a depressive void. It's like saying you're neither gender, being a genderless blob of cells. It literally defeats the purpose of being transgender.
I used to crossdress. I contemplated transitioning. I didn't do it. Back then it was cost prohibitive too. I wanted to have biological kids. It didn't happen, but I came to terms with my body. That wasn't the end of secretly being TG or even being Gensabi.
I am a dinosaur. A relic from a more reasonable past. I've kept my anonymity. I've seen TG purges online. Lived through them.
Violence is never the answer. I abhor that school shooting by a transgender person. The community used to be about love not hate. We were the persecuted not the persecutors.
If I were starting out as TG today I think I'd be peer pressured into transitioning, taking hormones, wearing female clothes in public, choosing some stupid made up pronoun that has nothing to do with becoming a woman. Then if I changed my mind be cast out like a rabid dog.
The A.I. thing was bad, but the attack on my own TG beliefs? For being old school TG?
It's time for me to retire. A backlash is on the horizon. Not only from outsiders but from within.
I do appreciate all the supportive comments.
This is indeed the end.
Sincerely,
Gensabi
Gender and sex has always been a bimodal distribution, a spectrum with two modal posts. Yes, most people do feel comfortable in the confines of a binary model of gender. But some people don't, and language and culture is slowly adjusting to that idea, in the same way culture is slowly adjusting to the concept of sex and gender not being strictly tied to one another. These "made up pronouns" are an evolution of language, as was the understanding and change from transexual to transgender to the distinction of transfeminine/ transmansculine/trans non binary, and further distinctions today. Older tests like the COGIATI, are strongly based on stereotypes and push a very structure version of what gender is that just doesn't exist in any real way. Every human experience is different, and gender is more of an individual thing than any of these terms, and no two people's gender experience will completely match. Medical transition of course isn't required or necessary for a lot of people whose gender identity doesn't match their AGAB, but it is one of the most effective treatments for those that are far enough from their gender identity that it is disabling in some way. Also an adult should be able to undergo these procedures regardless of diagnosed dysphoria, with proper informed consent, like any other procedure, and should be able to go as far as makes them feel comfortable or as far as they would like, even if their transition does not fit into a predetermined gender binary. No one is allowing teens or children to transition, in any meaningful medical way, puberty blockers are used for a minuscule percentage of young people that are experiencing dysphoria, and are generally recognized as safe, and a great option to allow secondary sexual characteristics to be held off, and when the child is an adult, they can make the decision to medically transition. Detransition is an acceptable thing, but a majority of detransition comes down to social pressure or other factor not allowing the transitioning person to properly access care. Those that truly make their way through all of the hurdles to truly medically transition, but change their mind do to not actually being trans, is practically within a rounding error. People choosing to be open, and de-stigmatize their transition should be a good thing, and I don't know why someone would be against that, and feel that it should be a shameful process. Bottom line is, if you feel that your gender identity doesn't match your gender presentation, it's ok to change that, there's no shame in that, even if it doesn't fit in a perfect little box, because those boxes have never been real, just people painting broad strokes because humans like to categorize things. I'm hoping you don't see this as an attack, but just someone trying to better inform you on the facts and stance of those that currently disagree with your older views on gender, sex, identity and transition, and why those views are seen as outdated by a majority of those whose life is effected by those topics
ReplyDeleteBlocking puberty is bad. Puberty is when and how people figure out their sexuality. That's when you find out what you're attracted to. When you see if the body changes during that time affects your perception.
DeleteTrans-sexual is not Transgender. Trans-sexual is a synonym for a transvestite, a crossdresser, she-male, etc.
What you call outdated worked. Nobody was out there attacking the Transgender community when people kept to themselves. All this new junk? It draws unwanted attention to people that just wanted to live their lives quietly in peace as a part of normal society. Misgender someone? So what. It happens. Not a big deal in the grander scheme of things.
These new pronouns do not make sense. Unless you have multiple personalities or a few clones with you you're not a they/them.
Being Transgender is all about changing between binary genders from one to the other. About embracing the gender roles of the opposite sex. Anything that isn't that and claims to be Transgender is a farce, it goes against everything transgenderism is.
Also I am creating these spaces by using an ancient art called the "Enter Button". It helps make a long comment easier to read. Especially when you post a college thesis.
Also there's an ancient piece of wisdom called "KISS". It stands for "keep it simple, stupid!".
Oh, okay. You really are just a bigot, that truly has no idea what they're talking about. You have no idea how much more harm, than good, people who think like you are causing. Just because you were once considered progressive and open minded, doesn't mean your opinions haven't become regressive and ignorant. I'm sorry that you let changing times turn you into a bitter person, and I really think if you took the time to understand other's perspectives you would come to see that you are just being stubborn and childish.
DeleteHopefully one day you will see that the whole point is for people to be comfortable and happy, however they see fit. Not to fit into this imaginary mold of the right kind of trans person that makes everyone else happy. You will probably not see this as an opportunity to grow and learn, and just think that people are just trying to run you off the internet, so I guess this is goodbye
thank you for ever thing you have given to us all over the years. you will be missed you are one of the gates and I will never for get you please keep well and remember that you will always have a fan in me. I may not have created captions but your work always did inspire me. all the best :)
ReplyDeleteAs someone pushing 40, who has transitioned MtF and came to find peace in the non-binary - you had one or two good points and buried them in a rant of disgusting transphobic rubbish. Don't let the door hit you this time.
ReplyDeleteBull shit, gensabi was spot on. Your just an Anon trying to eat your own. This new bull shit is destroying the community
DeleteYeah... His whole 'neo pronouns suck so non binary people as a whole suck' is not exactly the hot take you seem to think it is
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