Dear Readers, Haters, Etc,
So, on the last post I began replying to one commenter. She responded back, but I think it's easier to respond again as a post.
Apparently I have never been a "real Transgender" person. How I felt inside was never the point, or that I used to wear women's clothes, or thought I should've been a woman, because now you're only Transgender if you transition.
It doesn't matter that I was poor and couldn't afford it. It doesn't matter that I struggled with it for years, and that I kept taking the COGIATI test every so often as the community used to advise to do to see where you stood before making the huge life altering decision to transition.
Yes, back in the day the online Transgender community included transvestites, cross dressers, whatever you wanted to call those that either couldn't afford to transition but still embraced femininity despite being male. I remember the sites selling breast forms, browsing Frederick's Of Hollywood, or having my female virtual model on a clothing website I could dress up and screenshot.
Even writing fiction about becoming a woman for 23 years doesn't qualify me either.
Why?
Because finding body positivity makes me a "comfortable in skin" male. Because wanting to have biological kids meant not transitioning. Because being fearful of being public makes me a coward.
Oh, and a mysogynist. Or whatever else they want to call me.
So I don't even get to identify as Transgender yet they argue anybody can identify as whatever they want even if it doesn't exist!
I tried to make the point that eventually the youngsters trying to destroy gender in society will come for her too. Because she's embracing female gender norms, the very thing they want to destroy.
The purpose of creating so many fake genders and pronouns is to destroy the dynamics of being either male or female. If you say being Transgender is going from male to female or female to male suddenly what was common sense 10 years ago is now bigotry!
So according to her I was never really part of the Transgender community at all. I was obviously delusional for 23 years! All my experiences were a hallucination! I never was part of it after all.
So, if I'm not really TG then maybe this blog should be deleted? Maybe that's what people like her want. I mean, I'm just a poser, right?
I'm not going to delete it because I think this whole conversation needs to be kept up.
Remember what was done to me before they do it to you too.
I just stopped in the middle of this to upload one final capped pic for the fans.
I'm not coming back this time because this time I'm no longer even considered part of the TG community.
According to her, I never was!
So just like everywhere else in life I've tried to fit in, I am no longer welcome. So, I bid adieu.
Sincerely,
Your CIS, mysogynist, far-alt-right, fascist, bigoted, transphobic, patriarchal, evildoer, megalomaniac, egotistical, diabolical, NAZI, puppy hater, always extra, Gensabi
I will be sorry to see you go. I wouldn't because of a few people who have nothing better to do or think they are better than you. I am what I am. I couldn't care else what other people think, you should be thinking only of all of the positive feedback. I have been holding back my feelings of being a TV my whole life almost 70 years. Be thankful and great full of all the good comments that have been made. Whatever you decide may GOD Bless You.
ReplyDeletePeople are just getting out of hand now days forcing people to their point of view at the same time they are coming for our kids so Good for you not letting them dictate your life I agree with your point of view.
ReplyDeletelmao! Literally all I did was mirror your treatment of non-binary people back at you and Jesus Christ you could not be more insulted and butt hurt about it.
ReplyDeleteMaybe, just maybe, you could take one whole second to do some introspection? Nah, it's easier to keep making more dramatic posts and playing the victim rather than reflect on your own behavior and actions. Talk about dishing it out while being completely unable to take it.
Its terrible how a small number of people can turn a safe and welcoming place feel so terrifying. everyone wants to be arm chair therapist. what you or any one chooses to revile to the world is never the hole story so we should not be so quick to judge others. and as for the haters out there my advice is to let them be the more you or the rest of us try to fight back the more they love it because they want people to feel bad they get some kind of thrill from the hate.
ReplyDeletelong time fan
There's only 10 types of people. Those who are man, and those who are woman.
ReplyDeleteSo I just came back to this blog after a long time and just had to catch up on everything that has apparently been going on for a long while.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I want to say to Gensabi that you shouldn't feel like you have to quit or retire based on what other people say in your comments section. I've personally enjoyed a lot of your captions over the years and I'd be sad to see that stop. (I especially loved the cap about a mom going to a meeting with her son's friends who had all stolen their own mother's bodies and this one mom had to pretend that she was her own son who had stolen her body. I really wish you could turn that one cap into a series!)
With that said, I consider myself to be a very left-leaning person with very progressive views, and above all I believe in empathy and understanding.
From what I can gather from trying to catch up on the last few posts of this blog and some of the comments, it seems like you, Gensabi, don't fully understand or empathize with the newer views of people who are likely younger in the LGBTQ community. Now this isn't an attack against you! The vast majority of people don't understand the current progressive views of sex and gender in our society. I don't want to discredit your own experience growing up in a much harsher society against trans people and I do believe that what you say about your own life is the truth. You had these feelings about your own identity for most of your life but you weighed the pros and cons of making a very costly and public transition and you decided against it. That's a very real and probably very common experience for a lot of people, even to this day. So you consider yourself male and you present that way in public but you believe yourself to be somewhere on the spectrum of transgender in this safer space online in your blog. I totally respect that and I wouldn't fight you on your own identity when you say you are transgender in your internal experience. I think it is important, though, to point out that since you didn't publicly transition, there are parts of being openly transgender that you have not experienced while others who transitioned but maybe didn't pass have experienced. Even people who pass in society struggle a lot if people they meet in public know they are transgender. This doesn't mean that you, Gensabi, cannot think of yourself as part of the transgender community. It just means you have a different experience in this community than others.
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DeleteI think the biggest part of your recent statements that got some people upset were those you made about non-binary people and how you believe that the term "transgender" should only be for those transitioning between the strict definition of male and female. I read some comments in response which tried to point out that while biological sex is mostly considered a scientific reality where you have someone born with one set of private parts or the other, gender is more of a social idea. However, there are even people born with a combination of both sets, are born with completely both sets, or born with no working set at all. Those people care called "Intersex people" and since they don't really fit the specified male or female gender, doctors used to often cut off one set after the birth to fit whatever sex or gender the parents choose. This practice has mostly been stopped in most countries I believe, but there are still people alive today who had parts of their body removed because they were born intersex and didn't align enough to male or female. Imagine an intersex person born with both genitals. The fact that parents or a doctor could just cut off one set and suddenly decide that this person is now a man or now a woman for the rest of their life should tell you that even biological sex isn't as rigid as people think. The existence of Intersex people kind of defeats the purpose of having rigid sex and gender norms, in my opinion. Nothing about what is between your legs should control how you behave or what you can do or how you can feel. You can present as masculine as you wish and call yourself a man no matter how you were born and the same works in reverse. You should also just as easily be able to present as masculine as you wish and call yourself a woman, and vice versa.
Additionally, I believe that if you wish not to identify as part of the already established genders, you can do so. It doesn't hurt me or really anyone else if non-binary people want to be called by "they/them" pronouns. To that note, there are probably a hundred accounts on twitter in total that might use other pronouns that start with "z" or something that they've invented for themselves but those people using those pronouns are very small and not influential. Since I don't think pronouns matter much, I would personally be fine with using any made up pronoun a person wants because even if I think it might be silly, it causes no harm and if it makes them feel better, that seems like as good a reason as any to do it. To continue this idea, I know a few people personally who are gender fluid, meaning that depending on how they feel when they wake up in the morning, they might choose to go by he/him pronouns or she/her pronouns or they/them pronouns. One person I know has half their closet dedicated to when they feel masculine and one side for when they feel feminine. But the clothes are not the whole point. It is just about their gender presentation and how they express their internal feelings for the outside world.
In my view, embracing people like non-binary people as all being Transgender - since they are transitioning from the gender identity they were given at birth to something different, even if that doesn't involve surgery and is just about a change in pronouns - is not a bad thing and doesn't hurt those who are transgender people going from traditionally male to traditionally female or vice versa. To me, surgery also isn't the end-all-be-all of being transgender. Nor is "passing". You can transition without surgery if you wish and that should be allowed and you shouldn't have to "pass" in someone else's eyes to be considered transgender enough.
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DeleteTo take a break in my long post, Gensabi, you should remember that while the comments seem loud and numerous, any online space is nothing compared to the wider public. I believe even your "haters" in the comments would actively defend you in public against those people who would actually want to cause you harm if they were to learn that you run this blog or believe you are transgender on the inside. Your haters here are the minority on the internet but even they are probably far better people than those in the real world who are the real threat to any and all transgender people, whether they have transitioned or not.
I don't want to get into the varying definitions of "transgender" or "transvestite" or "cross dressers" because while some people in the online LGBTQ community hate some of those descriptions, others are fine with them and use them happily to identify. I would say that it depends on what the individual person wants to categorize themselves as, and if someone told me they didn't want to be called "transvestite" or they said they did want to be categorized as a "transvestite", I would respect their choice and follow their lead. I view those terms the same as "queer". Some people like it and have chosen to use it for themselves but others still hate it and feel like it is a slur. It depends on the individual so I plan to shift my language depending on who I'm with so that I avoid terms that might hurt people around me. Some might think that I would be giving in to others, but I just feel like I'm being as kind as I can be.
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DeleteAnd no one wants to make up fake genders and pronouns to destroy the dynamics of being either male or female. From what I've seen in the LGBTQ community, the definitions have only gotten wider and more inclusive. That doesn't destroy the traditional roles that came before, it just allows for other people who don't fit those traditions to feel comfortable living their own lives in a truthful way to their inner selves. Also, no one is trying to destroy female gender norms either because there is no organized movement to do so and plenty of people still enjoy those female gender norms. I think anyone criticizing you is actually pointing out that the newer beliefs around trans identity and gender have gotten wider to include more people like non-binary people, but you rejected that inclusion in your recent posts. I think people don't appreciate it when someone tells them they can't be part of a group they feel defines them just because of some traditional views like that of traditional male and female gender roles.
This is already long so I won't drag it out much further. The last thing I'll say is that a lot of the ideas that the younger generations of LGBTQ people and the progressive left are pushing for would probably have helped people like you when you were younger, Gensabi. Imagine if you didn't have to pay for the surgeries to transition because gender identity health care was covered? Imagine if you didn't have to sacrifice transitioning because you wanted to have a family? You could have transitioned without surgeries if public society wasn't so hateful of trans people and you could have had your family while socially transitioning without any drugs or surgery. What about a society where hormone blockers were allowed for young people in puberty? Those drugs are used often for other medical conditions and have no negative affects on young patients. A young teen questioning their gender identity could have their puberty safely blocked until they are old enough to make the decision to transition or not, and even if they chose not to transition, they could simply stop taking the blockers and their puberty would resume normally with no side effects. That has been scientifically proven yet still some people fight against the use of puberty blockers for young trans teens because they don't want them to transition, period. If they could block their puberty, they'd also be able to transition without any of the physical changes that come with their sex during puberty. No one would have to worry about a trans woman having an unfair advantage in sports because she had her puberty blocked with medication and has no physical benefits that come with cis men.
Or if none of that works for you, what about all those people who could have been helped by those things? Put simply, a society more open to people with different views around sex and gender and less rigid around gender norms or roles, and less obsessed with biological sex, is just a better society for people on the whole. That's where my belief in empathy comes in. I would hate for anyone to have suffered the kind of mental pain that you probably did growing up with those internal feelings about your gender identity and not feeling like you could transition without society hating you for it. That's why I'd much rather have a society that helps the new generation of people just like you.
Lastly, I urge you to investigate where you are getting your beliefs from. Some people who hate trans people and everyone else in the LGBTQ community are very good at spreading lies and pushing false messages to all kinds of people. If you aren't careful, you can end up believing there is some hidden gay agenda for your kids at school when there is no such agenda at all.
let's set the record straight right here, intersex is a mutation\deformity that is incredibly rare and caused by damage of the DNA. in the past as a trans person i myself have tried to use such an excuse for modern day beliefs of multiple genders but it holds no water. gender is also not a social idea, it is a word used to describe the sexual characteristics of human beings based on biology. that is until the lgbt decided they wanted it to mean something entirely different and threw a huge hissy fit all over social media as well as disrupting the peace in public in order to sell their propaganda by force.
Deleteas for the trans community online, idk why anyone with half a brain cell would be defending them. the online trans community is a toxic pit full of ignorance, egocentrics, and echo chambers built to shove anyone who dares have a different opinion than them. point in case you're doing it right now with this text wall. instead of trying to understand this person's point of view you are shoving your own down their throat. instead of having a healthy conversation about the topic you're pushing some paranoid bullshit.
moving on to that shit you started about "because you haven't transitioned you haven't experienced the same level of suffering as those who have" i can as someone who grew up trans in a christian home who didn't have the money to transition myself. say that you are absolutely full of shit. not only do you not know the lives of every trans person in existence to say what hardships they have faced to begin with. you have the audacity to sit there and downplay another person's suffering. doesn't fucking matter who had it worse there was suffering involved regardless.
people like you are the reason more and more people are walking away from the lgbt community, it's the reason i myself do not even interact with the community anymore. because you lot are so full of ego driven desire to control what everyone else thinks.
Holy moly, let me know how deconstructing all that religious trauma goes when you finally get around to it.
DeleteSigned, an exvangelical who took twenty years between coming out to their parents and being able to actually transition.
Just ignore the haters cause they're EVERYWHERE! Keep capping like you WANT!! That is what MATTERS. Good Luck in the Future.
ReplyDeleteTime to move on my dude, time to reflect and grow. You made your last cap and titled it so. Might as well close the blog entirely if you keep coming back just to get angry with people who can and will disagree with you. What a waste of your energy.
ReplyDeleteIgnore them start a new blog or patreon or Tumblr or a website and continue making caps if you so wish and not retire ignore the comment section if you want you can even block the comment that's your right as well. Stay safe gensabi and thanks for all the caps
ReplyDeleteWho the hell told you that you have to believe anything this person said to you? Tell that snob that they can't judge you!
ReplyDeletehere's the thing about the current online trans cult.. i mean plague.. shit uh echo chamber... fuck sound it out nyla, coooommuuunist... moving on you don't want your name associated with it to begin with. the cult is completely hostile towards free thinkers and rebels like myself who don't just follow the status quo. I've tried multiple times myself to be a part of the cult and nobody wants me around because i don't mindlessly believe everything im told, i like to think logically and look for the facts to form my own opinion. but that's not what they are looking for sadly, they like the mob of yes men they've accumulated who tell them they can do no wrong no matter how wrong they are.
ReplyDeleteThis is the most incel thing I've ever read. Does being a free thinking rebel come with a free fedora? 🤣
Deleteyour trolling is 10 years out of date, fedora man is already in his mid 30's.
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